Wednesday, July 02, 2014

The Half-Hearted Marriage

Came across this article as I was clearing my email. Good thoughts and good reminder to all of us who are married or thinking of getting married. Thank you Focus on the Family Malaysia for the work you are doing.

The Half-Hearted Marriage

Sunday, June 22, 2014

Even Though

This thought by Roy Lessin is so timely. I guess the Father does know the heart of His children.

Take His hand, even though it means letting go of what you are holding on to.
Please His heart, even though it may not please others.
Wait for His time, even though your desire is to get it done now.
Obey His Word, even though you hear something different that is popular.
Follow His path, even though you see a valley ahead.
Trust His wisdom, even though you want to do it differently.
Give Him praise, even though you are going through something unpleasant.
Be at rest, even though you have every reason to worry or fear.

Many plans are in a man’s heart, But the counsel of the LORD will stand. Proverbs 19:21 NASB

Work and all its mysteries

Have been thinking a lot about work recently and was privileged to have some interesting discussions with various people about work and what it means (or should mean) to me.

A random chat on an airplane ride back from Kuching with a client brought about two different perspectives about work which I'd just like to pen here to remind myself in future...

Musing #1
There is no such thing as work life balance, instead you should try to integrate work into your life so that work life balance becomes a non-issue.

This was pretty interesting to me as I have only recently 'decided' that I'd like to get a bit of work life balance in my life i.e. leaving work at work (whenever possible) and just replying the urgent stuff when I'm off work. But he challenged my thoughts about that because when you differentiate between work/life, then you get frustrated when one infringes on the other. But if you were to change your mindset/cut your time into smaller chunks to allocate out, you may just be able to manage both better i.e. both work and life becomes you and the delineation becomes a non-issue.

Musing #2
To be passionate about work.....or not.

I've always thought that it was important to be passionate about the work we do and to a certain extent, I still hold to this belief because I feel that passion is the little extra that carries us through the 'I-don't-want-to-go-to-work' moments. He shared a thought from a book he read recently which proposes that people shouldn't be passionate about their work because when you are passionate, you become emotional and you make emotional judgements.

While I agree that the premise is pretty interesting and to a certain extent, makes sense, I suppose at the end of the day, it really depends on the job you do. If it's a objective driven type of job e.g. make money or buy/sell companies, I suppose being objective is important and emotions would be cumbersome. But for me and the type of job we do in the comms/events/people related work, I think it would be hard to keep pushing yourself beyond boundaries without passion. And many a times, I believe that passion and liking what I do really helped dragged my feet to office and plaster a smile on my face.

One thing we both agree though was that it is important to continuously learn something new unless you are one of those who believes in being a specialist, doing the same thing over and over again. Otherwise, I think we all need to constantly feed our mind with new things lest we become bored, demotivated and become 'brain dead' :)

At the end of the day, everybody holds a different view of work and everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions but I suppose as it is with life, it's always good to keep an open mind about things and to listen to new views. I'm glad that conversation took place for me to see things a little differently and who knows, it might help in my work views and the things I'm desperately trying to 'sort out' in my little head.

Monday, June 04, 2012

Claiming these promises today

Blessings - Laura Story

"There is a blessedness that comes through waiting on the Lord. There is an intimacy in our walk with the Lord that comes through walking through that valley. There is a reliance on His word that we only know when everything in life fades away.....and so in that sense, I truly feel that I am blessed." - Laura Story on the inspiration behind this song.

We pray for blessings
We pray for peace
Comfort for family, protection while we sleep
We pray for healing, for prosperity
We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering
All the while, You hear each spoken need
Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things

'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

We pray for wisdom
Your voice to hear
And we cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
We doubt Your goodness, we doubt Your love
As if every promise from Your Word is not enough
All the while, You hear each desperate plea
And long that we have faith to believe

'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
And what if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

When friends betray us
When darkness seems to win
We know that pain reminds this heart
That this is not, this is not our home
It's not our home

'Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
And what if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
What if my greatest disappointments
Or the achings of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can’t satisfy
And what if trials of this life
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
Are Your mercies in disguise

Sunday, July 10, 2011

Back online...

...Have finally decided to take my blog off the cold storage so it's now back in public domain.

The 'stalker' has since left the company and I don't really care if she reads this anymore. Wherever she is, good luck to you but perhaps you might want to re-think your modus operandi in your new company. You're not doing yourself any favours acting like the world owes you and being a tattle-tale especially when you cannot actually deliver any real work. So, just do yourself (and your son!) a favour and grow up ok?


Check out my thoughts on Bersih 2.0 and Today's Worship.

Lazy to re-post :)

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Inspiration lost

I was inspired to blog and update earlier this evening but now at 11.30 at night, I'm suddenly feeling lazy so I guess it'll have to wait....AGAIN :)

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Grin and bear!

While the westerners hate going to weddings and Christmas alone for fear of uncomfortable questions from the relatives, the Chinese person's worse nightmare is during Chinese New Year which is unfortunately round the corner! The Chinese extended family is also much larger than the westerners so imagine the potential minefield we face! 

While we were growing up, the 'well-meaning relatives' would always state the obvious - "wow you have grown taller, thinner, fatter etc etc" or they would compare our exam results with that of their kids! 

Then it would be, "No boyfriend or girlfriend yet ar?"

When you are seeing someone, the question inevitably turns, "So when getting married ar?"

And now that I'm married, the question for my season is "Still no children ar? When are you having children? You are not young anymore. So and so already have X number of children"

So in preparation for the inevitable, I have come up with several responses when faced with THE question this year :

1. Place my hand dramatically on my forehead and sigh loudly saying, "Don't ask anymore la! It's very hard for us!" Add a crocodile tear, sniffle or both!

2. Ask, "Aunty, got any tips for us ar since you have so many children? Any special positions we should try?"

3. Steer clear of the person and pretend to be busy.

4. Feign indifference and shrug it off.

5. Pretend I have a tummy ache and head to the loo.

6. Say, "Ask God la. When He gives, we will surely take. He don't give, there's nothing we can do right?"

7. Just grin and bear and shuffle quickly to the next set of relatives.

While I'd really like to try 1-5, chances are I'll probably stick to numbers 6 & 7 for fear of offending the relatives. If only they would leave me alone! :( 

Oh well, Happy Chinese New Year everyone and wish me luck! 

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Worship 23rd January

Psalm 136 brought about these thoughts...

Let God be God

When the oceans rise and thunders roar,
I will soar with You above the storm,
Father, You are King over the flood,
I will be still and know You are God.


Ev'ry blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
And when the darkness closes in
Lord, still I will say:

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blesses be Your glorious name


Encouraged and reminded of God's love and grace for us. May it be to us as You have willed.